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Greetings my brothers and sisters I am new to this site and i feel i have no where else to go to. I am inlove with a girl with all my heart and all my intention towards her is good, but she has been forced marriage without her having a No option. She was Threatend and Harrased by her Aunt on her father side. MuhammadAbdullah, Asalaamualaykum,This woman you are talking of is married - so yes, it will be bad if you take her away to try and save her life. Without causing any offence, I have to say this, but you are in living real life, you are not the super-hero of a kids action show show where you can just fly in save the world, even if you do have good intentions.If this woman is truly going through what you say she is - this is unjust but it she who must decide what she wants to do. You should have not involvement with her - if you must do, just inform her that as a Muslimah, she has rights and that there are places from where she can get help and send her in the right direction. She can consult with a qualified Imam, if he is a genuine one he will advise her well.
Or she can go to a women's refuge for help. But you should not be thinking of running away with her, or fuelling her anger. If she tells you that her life is under threat, encourage her to tell the police and if the danger is imminent, then inform the police yourself. At the same time, encourage her to befriend some female practising Muslim sisters, so she can confide in them and not you - as you are not her mahram.Furthermore, I must point out that Islamically a 17 year old female is not a minor and can marry and consummate her marriage - so that there is no offence of 'sex with a minor' committed here.
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I understand from what you say there have been other threats and issues involved, but if you really do care for her, the best thing you can do for her is to inform her of her rights, tell her where she seek help and then keep your distance from her.If she decides to get divorced for her own reason, then you are free to approach her for marriage whilst remaining within Islamic limits.SisterZIslamicAnswers.com Editor. The way I see it is, she was forced into a marriage under the definition that we know, however she is married and you have no business with her.
Personally, I think your lucky to still have your limbs in tact, if a man was contacting one of my cousins after she was married (if we forget for a moment the forced marriage part) he'd have been in serious trouble.Leave her alone, let her carry on with her life. If she's not happy with her marriage, she can leave, not easy, but definitely possible in the 21st century.A 17 yr old is not a minor, I don't know what western shows have polluted you to think this way, but a 17 yr old in the eyes of Allah SWT is an adult perfectly capable of making decisions of their own. Having sex with a 17 yr old in the west may/may not be a crime, but Islamically if she is your wife, it's perfectly ascceptable and in fact you are rewarded for it.You on the other hand need to fix up and start getting on with your life.
When you're ready to marry, let your parents suggest a suitable spouse for you. She was forced to marry this man so therefore the marriage invalid. (Hadith)Khansa Bint Khidam said “My father married me to his nephew, and I did not like this match, so I complained to the Messenger of Allah (May Allah bless him and grant him peace). He said to me “accept what your father has arranged.” I said “I do not wish to accept what my father has arranged.”He said “then this marriage is invalid, go and marry whomever you wish.” I said “I have accepted what my father has arranged, but I wanted women to know that fathers have no right in their daughter’s matters (i.e.
They have no right to force a marriage on them). (Fathul Bari Sharah Al Bukhari 9/194, Ibn Majah Kitabun Nikah 1/602)And it is viewed as rape if she has not consented.The husband cannot just enter her whenever he feels like it their rules and boundaries for everything in Islam.2. John I think its you who needs to fix up not him he is a revert himself and has the best of intentions to help this sister out of her difficult situation. You should try advice him instead of trying to belittle him.3. JOHN Many reverts have not got family members or support to help them find a spouse. John just put yourself in his shoes and stop being so arrogant.4.
If you think that her life is in danger brother then call the local authorities get one of your female friends to meet with her ask her what she wishes to do. Asalaam alaikum Brother Muhammad Abdullah,First, it's important to make sure that what you are being told is the truth. Though this is difficult to ascertain and you should not do it on your own, you must make sure that you are not getting yourself into a situation in which the complete facts are unknown. You did not say which country you are in, but it may have an impact of who you can contact for this woman to get her true help under the law.
If she in in one of the corrupt countries in this world, this may prove more difficult, but there may be organizations that can help.I also must warn you that until you are certain of the situation, your life could be in danger and/or hers', as well. Please proceed with caution.It is also worth noting that in some similar situations, the men have been duped by a disgruntled woman and so you may be susceptible to your own feelings. Be very careful in this regard.However, if what you say is factually true and proven, then please read below.Forced marriage is invalid. The scholars of Islam agree on this and that no marriage can be made under distress or duress especially concerning the threat of death. I am disappointed to see that the posters above, including an Editor, did not acknowledge this and one even brushes it aside to make his point.If this woman is truly in agony and under the threat of bodily harm, rape and/or death, then she must make contact with the police, a NGO, a U.N.
Organization or a women's right group. From the sound of it, she may be living in a place of corruption where women are treated as commodities like in the Age of Ignorance which permeates throughout many countries till this day. However, these cases have also been seen in the West wherein deviated husbands and fathers abuse and murder their own daughters over marriage issues. May Allah (swt) save us from this fitna.It should also be pointed out that if the woman claims she refused sex due to her situation of a forced marriage, then yes, this is rape and against the laws of Islam. It is a further shame that the replies above do not address this issue for what it entails. No Muslim is rewarded for raping his wife.
May God forgive such an insinuation.I am quite disappointed with the above posts that do not mention the invalidity of forced marriages and the claims of rape. May Allah (swt) save us from that. I so completely agree with professor xs response. Everytime i read your responses on any post not only do you give such insight, information but you also give advice taking into consideration the persons feelings. May Allah reward you for helping so many people. The first two responses i believe were quite harsh.
Like you said, none of them addressed the issue of rape and when i read the part about reward for having sex, gosh i thought really. The responses actually sort of offended a little and i wasnt even the one that asked the question. Fair enough the woman is married but this guy sounds really concerned for her and as professor x has pointed out she may be within a corrupt country where help is not readily available. May Allah guide her and help her inshallah.